"It is a happy talent to know how to play."
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Growing up in Togo, or really most countries in Africa
probably, is completely different from growing up in the U.S. Kids in America
don’t work nearly as hard as kids over here, and they also have many, many, many more mediums of entertainment than the Togolese. I remember my surprise the first time I saw my little host sister, only about eight years old, cutting up some
food with a nice, big machete. I just thought “Well, that’s not something you
see every day."
Since my arrival, I have been shocked by how much
housework kids do. If you plucked any six-year-old out of America and
asked them to do the things a kid here does, they would probably have a mental
breakdown. On a typical day these children get up at 5 am, sweep the yard, cook meals, and take
care of younger siblings, among other tasks. There are no school buses in Togo. Everyone
walks to school, sometimes more than a 30-minute walk. Making this round trip to school twice a day, because of the midday lunch break, can mean two hours of walking to and from school each day. Childhood obesity is not a big problem here! Not
every child goes to school. Some families can’t afford to send their kids to
school, or only can afford it for a couple of kids, so they send the boys and
the girls stay at home to do housework. Even those who go to school often
have a job on the weekends, perhaps working on the farm or walking around the market selling something from a container balanced on top of their head, like water or juice sachets, bananas, tomatoes, etc. for
hours and hours.
When children come home they don’t have TV to watch, or
computers and video games to play with. Most babies and toddlers don’t
have cute stuffed animals and rattles. There are no parks with Big Toys or
pools for playtime; most people here don’t even know how to swim. No iPods, iPhones, iPads. Children make do with whatever they have
and then turn that into a toy. Once I saw a toddler who had taken an old, rusty
sardine can and tied a string to it. He was dragging it around on the ground
like it was a dog on a leash. Children play with spare tires by rolling them up
and down the street over and over and over again. Yesterday I saw a toddler repeatedly
kicking a plastic bag up in the air for fun. Kids look through the trash on
the side of the road for anything that can be turned into some kind of toy. They
play soccer with balls that are losing air. They make up games and spend a lot of time running around outside.
I am amazed by the resilience and creativity of these kids, and they are SO happy. You've never seen such smiles! By comparison, I feel embarrassed when I think about how spoiled/lazy many children are in America. Kids here have more work, but also quality playtime. Fresh air, sunshine, imagination. Togolese children have shown me that money and material things are not necessary ingredients for a happy childhood. In fact, they seem to be very happy without them.